Should we be judgemental?

We often hear from wise individuals that one should avoid being judgmental, or that being non-judgmental is the highest form of intelligence. However, as we navigate life, we frequently make judgments to make decisions that serve our needs. This seems to contradict the earlier notion about refraining from judgment.

Let's delve into these two seemingly paradoxical approaches to see whether they are mutually exclusive or can coexist harmoniously.

In our daily lives, we decide which vegetables are fresh for consumption, what food is healthy, what choices will lead to success, whom to choose as a partner, how our partner was raised, and how our children should be raised, we consider whether we live in a safe neighborhood, whether we harm others or other societies and whom we associate with as friends or in business. We make countless judgments daily to meet our mental, physical, and spiritual needs. Without these judgments, we might feel disoriented and unable to move forward.

Few examples,:

• If someone does not share our religious beliefs, we might perceive them as ignorant or detrimental to society.

• We question why the poor remain poor and unable to progress

• why Indians might lack civic, moral, or spiritual awareness

• why women are perceived as hypergamous which can lead some red pill men extreme hate towards them.

This can lead us not only to dislike but also to start hating them, feeling deep disgust for such people.

However, this often prevents us from examining our own mistakes. If we introspect closely on a daily basis, we might be shocked to find that we lack many qualities ourselves. Instead of correcting ourselves, we focus on others. A wise person focuses on their own shortcomings and constantly works on self-improvement as this itself requires lot of effort and time.

In essence, do not stop judging things or others, as it is crucial for survival. However, avoid hatred; instead, help things or people improve or simply ignore them. At the same time, focus inwardly to judge yourself and enhance your own life, which is a far better investment.